I would like to tell a simple story about ''happiness''. There was a rich and beautiful lady in India and the God bestowed her with everything that a person could get on this earth. At heart she felt very unhappy and realized her whole life was empty and had no meaning. Haunted by dejection and frustration, she sought the help of a psychotherapist. Upon hearing the rich lady's story, he called in a woman-janitor in that building and told the affluent woman, '' I am going to put some questions to this poor lady. I expect you listen to her answesr carefully and I will tell you how she found happiness''. The poor lady said, '' My husband who was in the army had been missing all these years and I did not know whether he was alive or dead. Childless, I had nothing left. No money, no future. I could not sleep, nor did I eat well and and have normal relationship in the neighboring families. I became more or less a recluse overwhelmed by depression and hopelessness. My neighbors told me that they never saw me smile''.
...''One day on my way back home after work, I saw little cat following me. As it was winter time I took pity on the little creature and decided to let it inside the home. For a couple of days I gave her milk and little food. It purred and rubbed against my leg when I was cooking in the kitchen. For the first time I just put on a little smile, responding to the little cat's affection for me. After a couple of days depression and dejection in me began to go away like passing clouds. It dawned on me one day if helping a poor helpless kitten makes me happy and smile , then I could light up happiness and give them hope. A couple of days later, with limited resources I had, I prepared food and took it to those poor and sick people who had no means to get it. When I saw their smile and and flickering hope in them my joy knew no bounds. It made me really happy to see them happy and there was hope in this cruel world where money was hoarded in rich men's coffers. Nothing made me happier by sharing happiness with the poor and the wretched. I understood the real meaning of the old adage,'Serving the people is service to the almighty' ''.
No sooner had the rich lady heard the heart-wrenching story of a poor woman than she felt she had every thing that money could buy, but the poor woman had no money but had happiness which money could not buy her. Loaded with money, she decided to help the needy and destitute by getting them the basic needs that they were deprived of. Rich lady really felt happy that she had something to hold there that would make the poor happy at heart. The lesson is ''the beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are; but on how others around you are happy because of your selfless deeds''.
Life is full of hopes, challenges and unexpected twists and turns
of surprises. It is something like a bumpy journey on badlands. “Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” - Joshua J. Marine. Contentment and happiness will help you achieve your goal without taking away your peace of mind.
Follow the following tips help you feel happy in your life:
01. Be strong and optimistic. Don't let sadness and negative situation get into or ruin your life. When overcome by sadness/grief, keep your chin up, after all for ever one life is a roller-coaster ride and will be bumpy.
02. Life is full of struggles and you have to accept them and live with them. It is something like climbing Mt. Everest, a tough uphill journey.
03. Stick with those who are joyful and lgive you inspirationyou.
04. Give due importance to the values and options of others.; the more you honor and respect them, the better you will feel about yourself and those you love.
05. Do not push yourself to the extreme just because you can not get it. be aware of your limitations. Accept little imperfection and you can not stop them.
06. Disappointments do happen when things go awry, but never lose your hope and keep going short of pushing your self.
07. For every one there will be silver linings in his/her life. There will be something to turn you on. When you trip, next time you will be extra careful and avoid pit falls as much as possible and this bring in a change in you.
08. Never fail to keep yourself busy because, research studies point out, that those who keep themselves busy, are happier than people who stand idle and do nothing. It is a good thing to join a social club or visit places that interest you very much. Having a passion for regular exercises will make you happy. It increases endorphins in your body, lowering your overall stress levels and giving you peace of mind, according to researchers who link there is a link between physical exercise and happiness.
09. Your appearance and smiling-face counts a lot. Not only does it give you peace of mind but also make others comfortable with you. But at the same time develop gut instincts.
10. Never ever do something to please other people; do what makes you happy. Never recall past painful events and at the same time do not be euphoric about your success and achievements. The great American singer Frank Sinatra who saw both failures and success in his tough life said, “The best revenge is massive success.”
11. Never fail to get involved in something that gives you happiness and makes you feel at home .
12. Contributing to the well being of the community is a great thing. You need not be a millionaire A little bit of charity is a good trait in you that may give you a purpose and meaning to your life. Being generous and compassionate will improve your image..
13. Do not blame others for your failures and this will give you a bad rap.
14. Be open to criticism and accept new changes in your life-style; perhaps it may boost your confidence which is directly linked to happiness.
15. Be magnanimous about your mistakes and, at the same time, appreciate your opponents positive sides. Besides, forgiving other people is a great thing in you. It reduces your stress level, BP and lower your heart rate.
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''Sri Sarada Yagna Prasadam'' vol 11, issue 10. Oct. 2019: On ''happiness''.